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TO KNOW OTHERS (from a different world)

 To know others (from a world that isn’t ours)

In our days we speak about “Arabic spring”, as it is a season that doesn’t exist before in Arabic world, or perhaps it is so repressed that it can’t open. But springs exist and they open continuously, maybe not so sensational, “thanks to the net and to the blood”.

Let consider Lebanon’s example, which has been always living its springs. During the so-called civil war, which hasn’t anything of civil, life didn’t stop. They fought, they fired, but you went to school, to work, on journey. How? Everyone played his part, “his task”.

I remember once, after a sleepless night because of the bombing raid from both the parts of the civil war, that the morning I went to work in the other side of the city, that of the “enemy”, and all of us colleagues, both Christians and Muslims, are tired because of the sleepless night for the bombs, and we laughed accusing each other who bombed more. It’s “Spring”.


To know others (from a world that isn't ours). Part 2.




People often ask how you dress yourself in Arabic world? Do they use the burqa? (without differences among veil, burqa, chador, foulard, everything is burqa!).

Arabic world is various, every country has its uses and traditions. Every country adopted a different way of life which influenced their society. Some of them are defined Moderates, the others Extremists. But the Western man always respects other’s culture, since he defends his liberty with force.

Except Saudi Arabia which is the country guardian of Sunni Islam, and Iran which is the guardian of Shiite Islam (in these two countries the Western woman has to identify herself with the natives women and to cover herself for respect of the holy place).

So Arabic world is an hospitable world, it loves the respectful visitor.

There will be much to tell.


To know others (from a world that isn't ours). Part 3.

Arabic world is enchanting and intriguing. Human history confirms this. The Middle East is history's cradle. We Arabs are proud to belong to this world corner. 

But we Arabs love too the West. We study history of most of the western countries, their geography, their culture, and we have interest also in their politics. We know all their films, their actors, their football teams, and maybe we are fans of one football team which becomes our favourite.

I remember that during the lebanese civil war, my mother followed carefully the event of Aldo Moro, Italian Prime Minister in 1978. She knew the "Brigate Rosse", who killed the Prime Minister. She had a small radio, she always took it with her, and when she learnt that they killed him, she bacame sad for a man she didn't know, but whose situation she lived through the radio.

We always have a particular interest in something about the West. But we are sad when the West, for its part, doesn't strive to know us.

So often we present directly ourselves to the world, in all our splendor, to let others admire us.


To know others (from a world that isn't ours). Part 4: Curiosity

Try once to invite to your house someone Arabic. Offer him something to drink, to eat, etc, he will immediately refuse: "Non, thanks", try again to offer saying: "But please, take something". The guest will say "Non, thanks", but don't give up, continue to insist. Then when it will be the third time that you offer him something, he will accept.

When I was a child, I knew I hadn't to accept the first time they offered me something. I knew I had to follow the rules, I could accept only at the third offer, and I had always the fear that the host would get tired to insist, or he would lose the account, and I will rest without nothing. I was always anxious with my candour of a child. With time, I learn how to behave at Western way, that is: to accept if you want, and to refuse if you don't want, or to accept for kindness depending on the circumstances. Easy, no?

So, I think: why aren't simple, we of the Middle East, in our relations with others? We complicate our life alone. Then, I think this habit distinguishes us from others, and we love to be accepted for our differences as nice characteristics. 

Do you want to know better Arabic people? We have always something to tell..


 To know others (from a world that isn't ours). Part 5: Arabic alphabet.

Do you know Arabic alphabet? Have you ever listened how to pronounce every letter alone? Every letter pronunciation puts to the test our ability to use vocal talents.



To know others (from a world that isn’t ours). Part 6


Have you ever eaten seeds? Salted and toasted seeds? Pumpkin seeds, watermelon seeds, sunflower seeds? If you never did it, try on the first occasion!

In Arabic world there’s really an education to eat dried fruit toasted and salted, like pistachios, almonds, nuts, cashews, peanuts, chickpeas, and above all seeds. There are specialized stores where dried fruit is roasted and kept always crisp. It’s a real delight to taste and smell, when you go in this kind of stores.

But seeds, above all the smallest, have a particularity. They are the distraction of lovers. When a lover suffers the pains of love and the craving for his dear, he can relieve his sufferings munching a handful of seeds. The salted taste on the lips, the tongue searching for the little pulp of the seed create a nice mechanism, so that once you start to munch you can’t stop easily.

However to eat seeds is an Arabic curious feature, but we Arabs love to have distraction like this, in a way easy and strange. Try it!

NOTE: It’s necessary a real ability to break the seed with teeth and to keep the pulp with tongue like a parrot. Try!


 To Know others (form a world that isn't ours). Part 7

 Arabic woman

Who is the Arabic woman? Obviously that whose mother tongue is Arabic, that who lives in Middle East, and then that who covers her face and head, and then that who has no says in many things, who has no rights, and at the end Arabic woman is a Muslim woman.
I suppose that these are the answers of common Occidental people. But I’m an Arabic woman myself, and so I want to explain who we are really.
Above all we have to admit that Arabic women are both Muslim and Christians, in fact there are Christians in almost all the Arabic world (Lebanon, Syria, Jordan, Iraq, Egypt, Palestine, Morocco, Tunisia).
Egyptian Arabic woman is above all a mother, in a so warm country the mother Arabic woman is called: “the woman most loved”, the lady on the others and when she’s not a mother, she is an emancipated woman, a woman of character, whose role in the society isn’t less important than that of men. In fact Egypt is compared to an Arabic Hollywood, whose Arabic women are the basis.
Now let’s tell something about another Arabic woman: Syrian Arabic woman.
Once I was guest in a Syrian family that I didn’t know, but we had a common friend. The Arabic woman of that family was the “Mum”, and she had authority over 4 children, and two were boys. She had to me such hospitality that after many years, I always remember with love and admiration that night in Damascus. The dearest memory is when at dawn I had to go to the airport to fly to Italy, and I had to take a taxi (they had not a car), and that woman asked her son to come with me, because she was worried about me. How I loved Syrian women  in that moment!
But this is not all, there are others Arabic women…


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  • Bella, l'esposizione! Molto utile, mi ha dato un'infarinatura generale molto utile. GRAZIE:)...

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